To be honest with you all I haven’t been feeling great recently. I don’t want my blog to be a place of negativity because there’s enough of that in the world and on the internet as it is. I would prefer for this to be a positive space that could actually help people in some way. While I may experience invasive thoughts, bouts of depression and sometimes suicidal ideations; I do not wish to promote or trigger these feelings in anyway. It doesn’t mean we pretend they don’t exist but instead I would like to suggest ways that could help anyone who is going through anything similar, or anyone at all who might be struggling or possibly just seeking a little bit of positivity.💫
So for this self-care Sundays I’d like to talk about the importance of surrounding yourself with loved ones and why it is beneficial for your mental health. As I mentioned I’ve been feeling quite low lately for various reasons that I won’t bore you with right now. Despite these overwhelming and sometimes unbearable feelings as of late, here are just a few things I’ve found that have made me feel like the worlds not imploding around me. For more tips on self-care check out my other posts in the series #1 #2 #3 #4 #5
Ways to feel connected 💕🎀💞
1.)Phone a friend
Sometimes the thought of picking up the phone and dialling that old friend who we haven’t spoken to in all that long but we really wish we hadn’t lost contact with, can be a lot more daunting than if we just made the call. Often we put things off and make excuses telling ourselves we don’t have time or are too busy. Are you really too busy to check-in with your loved ones? A quick phone-call can make you feel more secure, happier whist building and strengthening your support network.
The companionship that a dog offers is like no other. As well as being a great friend- dogs can reduce anxiety, depression and stress. If you are fortunate enough own a furry friend then maybe you could arrange a doggy date with another dog owner? Or perhaps you think it would be more beneficial to invite your (lesser) non-dog owning buddy out with you and your charming creature. Get it sorted and spread the doggy love. 💛🐕✨✌️
3.)Arrange afternoon tea
Afternoon tea is a great excuse to meet up and have a good old natter. It’s a great way to bring everyone together in a nice setting, I try enjoy it with my family every couple of months. We always visit different local places – we are hoping to go for a parmo afternoon tea on our next trip. This is why I love the North East. 👀👅☕️❤️
4.)Catch up over a coffee
Mmm, my favourite kinda date. Catch up with a loved one over a hot beverage… Why not make it a regular thing? Or if you’d prefer lunch then grab a bite to eat. Either way, make it happen. Don’t be afraid to make the first move.
Do you quite fancy seeing that new movie that has just come out? Well then actually plan to see it! If you don’t ask you don’t get and then you will never know. It’s just that simple. You have to be willing to put yourself out there and accept sometimes people will say yes and sometimes people will say no. So what are you waiting for? 🎞🍿🎬👫
6.)Tag someone in a funny video/meme
In the age of Facebook I find that tagging my best friends and family in funny videos and memes as one of the main forms of communication. Good or bad. You can judge or relate, but you cannot deny it doesn’t brighten your day getting tagged in a proper random video. So keep tagging and if you ain’t then start…👉
It can really make the difference seeing someones face as well as hearing their voice, you are connecting on that extra emotive level. I really should make the effort to FaceTime my friends more often. In the past we have arranged times to FaceTime each other, so that we know we will be free. I like this idea as this removes any feelings on intrusion or calling somebody unannounced.👋🤳👯
Setting up group chats really can bring people together. It can be hard as we get older and inevitably people move away from their loved ones due to circumstance. Friends and family may move apart in location but with social media and technology there is simply no need to stay out of each others lives, even if we can’t physically be there day-to-day.
Do you have a group chat with your friends/family? If not why don’t you set one up with like-minded people? It really could bring you closer together and make you feel more connected!👯💬📱
Volunteering for a cause that is close to your heart could bring you joy, fill you with purpose and make you feel connected within the community in ways you probably never imagined before. I have only ever heard positive things about volunteering and so have been inspired to seek out roles in my local area. This is something I am hoping to do in the near future and am looking forward to this journey. Watch this space. 👀🤝❤️
If you are suffering at all then it could be helpful for you to attend a support group in your local area. Perhaps search online or speak to your GP about specific groups for your needs. There are plenty out there! In support groups the members are all going through similar things so everyone is understanding of eachother. Even if you are struggling to find friends, family or loved ones- never feel alone. There is always somebody who will listen to you, who cares. ❤️
Watch out for my next post on self-care in the series next Sunday!